THE WRONG SIDE OF RIGHT

                 THE WRONG SIDE OF RIGHT

One big mistake we people repeatedly make is focusing on proving that, our right is one hundred percent right. Wait, one might get confused here, isn’t right itself something which is correct, what more is there? Yes, there is; which is not necessarily being correct. Your version of right is to yourself and not essentially be preached by others. We humans just pretend to be ignorant about this concept.

Our educational system is rooted on the basis of right and wrong. There starts our thinking likewise and sadly made to believe that a set of values which we come across and practice are the only right ones. Yes, it is a damaging theme in the environment in which we were brought up, “The need to be correct.”

Who listed this universal idea of right and wrong?

What are we trying to do here?

We have this mini spreadsheet in our head with our ideologies, principles and ethics which we are open to. The people we keep close mostly fall under our way of thinking and there is no issue at all. But when someone doesn’t come under this checklist of ours, we tend to judge the person, degrade them and even make fun of them. This is the wrong side of our right which I am talking about. 

It happens almost everywhere. Two women, at the age of 25 may not have the same motive in life. Settling down and starting a family of own, where as the other focusing on shaping the career. Both are following their idea of right, here one is not less or the other is more. It would be unfair for accusing the married women for not focusing on the career and vice-versa.

Being an atheist is not unacceptable, but speaking low of a believer and expecting your fellow people to walk in your path of atheism is not fair. It’s not okay to ask a college student who doesn’t fancy the idea of night outs and parties, “what do you even do?  What fun do you have at your age?” The idea of fun may be different for that particular person. It’s not okay to judge a person with your idea of right, even though if its majority. I have faced such instances, people laughed at me, just because I did not fancy their idea of fun. This clarity now might have saved a lot of time and energy for me back then! *sigh*

Even we would have come across this in our households; there has always been a clash with our parent’s mindset and ours. We see such instances everywhere, I have just highlighted a very few. In every case there arises a problem, when we expect others to believe our version of right. Most of us work twice as hard to prove ourselves right, it’s not about the outcome we are worried about, we are just protecting our ego. 

Again I’m not talking about giving an advice to anyone, but about forcefully making a person to believe our form of right and degrading the person if they don’t. Lot of things will be much simpler when we understand this. We can save a lot time and energy, wasted on others. Also avoids a lot of criticism, judgmental behaviour and bullying too. Be truthful to your values and ethics, do not expect others also to come under the same framework. No interpretation of life is considered noble and the other as less; each is a version of one’s own self. Never try to do something just because others find it right and similarly don’t expect anyone to think like you, just accept that it’s their version of right and do not criticize anyone’s opinion or way of thinking.

Thanks for the read 🙂