Love of Self

"Nurture a self love that is far greater than any amount of affection that you felt for/from another person."

You are very much enough for yourself just the way you are. Try saying this to yourself everyday by looking in the mirror. You are not more nor anything less than what you believe. Self love starts when you accept yourself with your own positives and flaws. Look into flaws with less fear and that gives you more power. You will find out the best version of yourself. Whatever it is, bring it on with a smile-you need to respect yourself,that's where you live in after all. It takes much to effort to believe that "You are enough for yourself" and not as easy as it sounds.Practice methods and develop hobbies , interests that brings out your positive side rather than your weakness.It gives you a confidence to push yourself an extra mile. We can also put it this way, how can you expect others to give you something which you deny to give yourself first. Trust me this belief will change your idea of self love. "Remember change always starts from you." 

Self - love is much more than just parlor appointments , a day off , chit chat with a friend or spending time alone. It's more like exploring your soul ,more of something like finding your 'ikigai' - ah this word  fascinates me! Well, fancy words aside, its more like coming to a state of peace with yourself ,accepting for who you are and do what you intend to do, just to please yourself and not others.It's a process . Just like a big fat villain in Indian cinema who continuously tries to plot against the hero, we have several villains in our social friend list and ready to shoot questions that tend to put us down. Trolls, comments , suggestions and opinions come for "free" and it's not as exciting as the word free sounds. Everyone wants to put a socially praised profile and to escape the fear of being judged,start doing things to please everybody. Its like your'e running an imaginary race, forgetting the sole purpose of being in the race. Remember you cannot give the key to your happiness to others .You are totally responsible for what you feel and not others. Once,you have control over this content you can really do better.

I will share few simple steps which I am trying . 

1. Love yourself as the way you are. First accept,later comes the change.

2.Do not feel attached to anyone.- As the famous old saying , everyone comes and goes alone. I am not saying you to stop emoting, that's different.Don't have a sense ownership towards anyone and vice versa, you are not owned by anyone. 

   Bottom-line DON'T BE CLINGY/NEEDY ,it just weakens you.

3.Learn to spend time with your own self. Do little activities you love,explore your interests, small things which were always in your bucket list- now is the right time to strike them off.

4.Do not try to establish what you did on social media/don't get influenced. It doesn't always require you to share everything on social media. Yes, you can share important moments, photos, memories etc., but its your'e personal journal which your'e putting up for a list of  people(few of whom you don't even know you personally). Draw a line and be aware of what you post, no one want's to know every tiniest detail of your life.Similarly, don't get influenced by other's ideas of life.Not everyone's life is as sexy as you see it on social media,everybody is dealing with their own up's and down's. LEARN TO APPRECIATE YOURSELF WITHOUT EXTERNAL SUPPORT/OTHERS REMINDING YOU TO DO SO.

5. Practice to spend some time away from electronics. At least an hour before going to bed and an hour after waking up. This helps you to begin the day with a fresh mind,plan better and get a good night's sleep.

6.Spend time with family- It's always better to spend time with people face to face rather virtually. Participate in family activities and decision making.  

 These are the few things which I'm trying to follow , and definitely turning into a more happier person.Again its a process,everything has a small beginning and I hope, reading this helped you find out your own beginning. More power to you.

Thanks a lot for reading;)