NEVER SETTLE

NEVER SETTLE

 

 

Are you happy or just comfortable?


Have you ever asked this yourself? Like you are not enjoying something you're doing for a while now, may it be your career, a habit of yours, or even some random things you do just out of peer pressure, having no idea of what it actually does to you but you're just comfortable doing so.


"I find myself constantly stuck between 'I am proud of myself ' and not doing enough."

Trust me just believe the latter, just so, you keep moving on and not just be stuck. It has been a while since I stopped enjoying my work, what I do; bored exactly that's the word. But I kept doing it over and over again everyday because I had this fear of being jobless, the fear of being judged, this held me back from the things I actually intended to do. We actually live in a society which sings us praises if we have a job that gives a stable income and if we are self sufficient, it just expects you to settle down with it. Vice versa it doesn’t give a damn about your job satisfaction and shit. Now I don’t blame the framework in which we grew up. It’s on us. Takeaway is what really matters when it comes to anything. What did you infer is what is important. Our mind lack’s this understanding and I was no different. I realized I have become lazy, not just physically but also mentally. I just threw curses on nature of the job and people around just to escape the fear.


“The fear of facing the fact that actually, midway, I have lost sight of my goals, what once excited me is just my disinterest now. The fear of encountering the idea of change. The fear of facing my heart which is in constant battle with my mind and holding me from moving on”


That’s when I started to think, if this is what I assume that I’m destined for, and then I'm certainly not happy. I felt lost and helpless. I felt terrible; I was just complaining and being ignorant on certain things. Take it from me, dissatisfaction, boredom, might be a very not so welcoming feeling, but really helps you to push, this thinking definitely motivates you to switch goals and make it better. So a big step, I just quit my job. Crazy right. Yes, I did not feel me growing personally and just was doing it for sake; I certainly tried to cope but failed enormously. That’s when I decided there was no takeaway from what I’m doing. I have vague ideas about what I am going to do next, sounds unrealistic but gives the mere satisfaction of even the smallest step I take towards a better path.

Now speaking of quitting, it is not the solution always, that was in my case and context, not necessarily be the same for everyone and just quitting should not be the direct way out. I genuinely tried before I came to this conclusion. It is common to feel dissatisfied, bored or tiresome of what you are doing. This feeling is there for everyone, not just people who work or run a business, even our mothers who still do all the work at our house with a smile glued to her face.

Now is everyone really satisfied?

No, definitely not, broadly there are three types,

1. Who actually find no agenda or motive to work towards. Say, run out of spirit.
2. Who enjoys doing the job but at some point breaks down and feels tired.
3. Who actually does it for survival and to support a family.

All of these bottom down to the same, each person here is settled down for something which is not actually what they prefer, proves to be mundane after a point or because of commitment. Lack of satisfaction in each case and hints of boredom. We fail to balance, and it’s this imbalance that trips us down. We either focus on one thing too much or just ignore it. Like I said it’s normal to feel so. In that case, EMBRACE THE FEELING, don’t ignore your heart don’t be ignorant, take a break, and identify the cause. Take a short holiday, vacation, clear up your mind to focus better, take a break to set things straight and start running again. CHALLENGE YOURSELF, elevate your work goals, challenge yourself for bigger results, raise the bar. You will definitely enjoy the feeling and even may find what you seek. TALK TO OTHERS, focus on people around you, to an extent this might help too, we are always too focused on ourselves and sometimes selfish to notice what’s happening around us. Open up to people around, speaking with others about these circumstances might help to clear it out and give a better picture of what can be done. FOCUS ON SIDES, it need not always be your work, find some hobbies, or activities that make you feel better. Engage yourself in something new to explore and that excite you. Even can have a side work/job which you have always wanted to do but never had the right situation or time. Just clear up some time for trying it out.


There is actually never an end to anything, unless you assume it to be. It is a process, you working on yourself never ends, you just get better and better. This feeling discussed here is horrible but a remainder to tune ourselves for our own good. Remember , it may sound cliche but don’t hesitate to do it all over again, because in no time we might find ourselves meeting this unwanted friend of ours again.

Unless out of choice, settling down for what's comfortable will not provide long term happiness. Have the courage to change things, to make better mistakes, learn and in turn grow.


NEVER SETTLE, for what life gave you, instead build a better something.
NEVER SETTLE, for what's comfortable, rather for greatness in what you do.
NEVER SETTLE, for timely pleasure, rather for long term benefits.


Just make sure in 5 to 10 years from now you will be able to say that you chose your life and not settled for what came your way.

"Just let go the fear of losing sight of the shore, remember only then you can cross the sea".



Thanks for the read:)